Nowadays, we’re closer than ever to the private lives of our sporting and entertainment heroes. The intense media coverage around celebrities gives us a chance to hold their private lives up to a microscope for examination. And we don’t always like what we see.
But even for the everyday man or woman, adultery has been around forever. In troubled relationships, cheating can be an easy alternative to the burden of a breakup or the agony of divorce. It’s a quick fix for the sake of the couple’s or the family’s integrity.
Here are the ten main reasons why men cheat on their partners….
Your lady doesn’t give it up. Every man has heard that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with him is by marrying her. Apparently, long-term relationships seem to suck the sex drive out of many women, leaving men gasping for fulfillment. With the need for more sex, some men will start “working late” more often. Or it could just be that the sex has become boring. She doesn’t want to try new things in bed.
Some men may cheat because they don’t want their girlfriends or wives to perform certain sex acts that would ruin their “good girl” image, so they get a mistress to take care of it.
She cheated on you. So you found out your lady was being unfaithful, and the only way you can relieve your anger is by doing the same. For many men, this is the only way to get back at their cheating girlfriends and even the score. Some men might even cheat to get back at all the cheating women they’ve had the misfortune of dating throughout their lives; now that’s efficiency.
It’s challenging and exciting. If you consider the women you sleep with “sexual trophies,” chances are you have already cheated at least once in your life. Some men simply cannot leave behind the thrill of the hunt, the chase and the conquest. For other men, the excitement is in the variety, like changing ice cream flavours for one day after years of sticking to just one.
You can get away with it. “What eyes don’t see, the heart doesn’t feel,” goes the old adage, and it still holds true, as long as there are no cameras around – or, in the case of Tiger Woods, voicemails –. The knowledge that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to grab a different helping. But be careful; as men get craftier with avoiding detection, women get more sophisticated with detecting, not to mention boosting their network of spies.
It boosts your ego. Nothing lifts the old self-esteem like discovering that other women still desire you sexually. When in long-term relationships, men may begin to question their sexual marketability, which will lead some of them to sow their clandestine wild oats. Once a man knows he can get back in the game, he’ll return to his mate; or not.
The opportunity was there. It’s an uncontested fact that most men can’t say “no” to sex. Although guys aren’t constantly bombarded with sexual offers, sometimes an irresistible prospect presents itself. Maybe it’s a frisky ex-girlfriend, maybe it’s a horny hottie on the dance floor. A guy may see it as once-in-a-lifetime occasion that might never be available again. Carpe diem , as they say.
Your girlfriend is a nag. Most men have experienced at least one woman who thrives on making him feel like crap. Constant nagging, fighting and squabbling in the right ratios is the best recipe for a headache. Cheating with another woman is a common escape from this domestic hell, and works better than aspirin.
Women let us. Ok here’s the good news, women are quick to forgive men for their unfaithful behaviour. Maybe it’s their fear of being alone, or that women are simply the more merciful ones of the human species. Some women might even blame themselves for their men’s infidelities, and take steps to improve their relationships. The fact that many women let their men get away with murder might compel them to double deal repeatedly.
She doesn’t turn you on anymore. Long-term relationships have the annoying habit of making people lazy. No longer concerned with staying fit and attractive, a committed woman might lose the allure she once had. Her man may simply not find her beautiful anymore, and making love to her is not as stirring as it once was. This is why most mistresses are gorgeous, young women.
You don’t love her anymore. Alas, after a long time together, you have lost the feelings you once had for her. But the relationship has remained too much a part of you. Separating seems so painful, so radical that it’s almost inconceivable. So instead of separating, you go elsewhere to get your physical gratification. Most times this does not help matters, but only prolongs the inevitable breakup.
Warning for the men:
In the end, cheating is no joking matter. If you are cheating on your girlfriend or wife, it might be that you are unhappy in the relationship, or that you have issues that you should address. Look at the big picture and see your unfaithfulness as a symptom of a bigger problem. Cheating might feel good as a quick escape from your problems, but it’s only an anesthetic — not a long-term solution.