Being able to deliver this treat to your man will make you the queen of the bedroom and probably the queen of his heart as well. So if youâ€™re looking for ways to make him beyond, I mean BEYOND happy in bed, weâ€™ve rounded up the best oral s3x tips for you.
1. Start off slowly. Savvy Miss has a great play-by-play for getting the oral sÂ£x party started, from kissing to finishing. He may be perfectly happy if you simply unzip his jeans and get to it. However, heâ€™ll be even happier if you tease him and draw the whole thing out.
2. Donâ€™t use your teeth. We all know this, right? NO TEETH. Except supposedly some guys like a little nibbling. Proceed with caution, ladies.
3. Do use your tongue. Itâ€™s not just about wrapping your lips around his member. Play around with your tongue, too â€” especially at his most sensitive spots, like the head and (for some guys) the balls and the base of the shaft.
4. Suck to start. The Joy of sÂ£x calls it â€œraising the deadâ€ â€” sometimes to get the party started you can try firm yet gentle sucking. This Reddit post on giving an epic bl*w job explains this technique.
5. Relax to deep throat. Lord have mercy, men do love to go spelunking. That Reddit post has some good advice: Take a deep breath and relax your jaw and throat. Stick your tongue out. And then just go with it.
6. Minimize gagging with the right position. First of all, gagging turns a lot of guys on because â€œOMG, your pÂ£nis is so HUUUUGE itâ€™s gagging me!â€ (Men are so weird sometimes.) But that aside, you may gag less if you do the bl*w job on your back with him straddled over you head. Give it a try.
7. Make eye contact. Apparently a lot of guys think itâ€™s hot if you can look them in the eye while blowing them.
8. Keep it wet. Bl*w job expert (yes, really) Auntie Angel says lubrication is the most important thing. And most guys would probably agree. So drool away, or use a flavored lube. Donâ€™t worry about getting messy.
9. That donut trick. You know the girl who ate a donut off her boyfriendâ€™s penis? Itâ€™s not for everyone, so run the idea by your guy first before trying it.
10. Experiment. Thereâ€™s so much you can do â€” hereâ€™s a whole menu of oral pleasures from The Gloss. Give them a try and see what he likes.
11. Swallow. This is controversial, but the consensus seems to be that men love it when you swallow. Itâ€™s definitely a more elegant solution. Bottom line is you donâ€™t have to if you donâ€™t want to â€” but entertain the idea.
12. At least donâ€™t blow and run. If you donâ€™t want to let him come in your mouth or on you anywhere, communicate before you get started about how you can land a happy ending. And then, be gracious and donâ€™t treat his sÂ£meÂ£ like toxic waste. Thatâ€™s not very sexy, and itâ€™s also not a great way to encourage intimacy.